He was too young. It happened too soon. It’s all too sad.
This is just too close for comfort. He meant too much to too many. Too many are
hurting.
Over the weekend, a friend very suddenly and completely
unexpectedly, passed away. He was only 46. We weren’t close friends, but I had
known him for a little more than 10 years. He was, however, very close friends
to a good friend of ours. And that relationship, amplified the magnitude of
this earthquake by a 100 times. Maybe even a thousand. I really can’t do math
right now.
I’m not sure why I’m even writing about it, or what I’m
trying to say. It’s not as if I can make sense out of this. It makes no sense.
He was in great shape. I heard some of the details, rather, I was told some of
the details. But, similar to a scene from the movie Spanglish, there was a
crack in the world. I vividly remember being told what happened, but none of
the details stuck. My brain couldn’t manage hearing while trying to comprehend
what had happened.
Now, my heart breaks for his wife. My heart breaks for
his son and daughter. My heart breaks for his twin brother. There was so much
to admire and respect. He had a close knit group of friends, dating back to
high school and college. I saw the kind of relationship every brother hopes to
have. They lived within five miles of each other, and spent summer vacations
together in Destin, Florida.
Toughest of all, was seeing the relationship he had with
his children. When I was in my teens to early 20’s, I couldn’t imagine being so
close with my father. Now that I am a parent, I can only hope to immolate what
he had. How many 20 year old daughters would post so many photos with their
father on Facebook? It sounds like such an insignificant fact, but I was always
really impressed. He wasn’t someone I’d text, I’d just see him around from time
to time. And while his poker playing style could drive me nuts, I always hoped
to learn more about his parenting style.
Life is too short, and too precious. A late night movie
with friends is too easily taken for granted. Too many words go unsaid. It’s
all just too sad.
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